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Direct Answers - Column for the week of April 26, 2004My girlfriend and I are basically the same age, just a six month difference.
When I went to buy the engagement ring in February, I felt certain she was the right one.
She accepted my proposal by saying, "If we go slow?"
We've been doing that.
We had the ring resized to fit her finger, and the wedding wasn't to be until Easter 2006.
This morning she broke it off.
We were happy and taking it slow, but for some reason it felt fast to her.
Right from the start, her relatives pressured her to break up.
She asked me questions, I answered honestly, and my answers were acceptable.I want to get married and have my own happy family in the next five years.
Preferably in the next two.
This afternoon I even cried.
What can or should I do?
I know suicide's not the answer, but maybe it would make a difference to her and them.
No, I don't want to do that, but like I said, I'm feeling sad today.MichaelMichael, on a merchant ship the second mate is responsible for navigation.
Traditionally, each morning the mate would rise, take a fix on the stars, and recompute a fresh course to the destination.
This is necessary because the wind and sea push the ship off yesterday's course.The mate can chart a course and ring up the speed, but the sea determines when the ship will arrive.
There is no point fighting against the sea, or against life.
Ordinarily when a person thinks of suicide, it is because they are holding to a fixed idea, and they cannot imagine life in any other way.
But life is full of possibilities.If your depression is serious, seek help.
But your sadness seems based on rigid expectations.
You have a schedule in your head, and you want life to conform to your schedule.
In the next two years you want to find a woman who loves you, whom you love, who will marry you, and produce children.
That sounds more like ordering a new car than love.Out of great love for someone who loves you, come a family and happiness.
Where is the great love for this woman in your letter?
No, what we hear is the two year schedule.
What we hear is the difference between this woman, and your plans for a woman.
Life, and people, cannot be bent to your will.
Surrender your schedule and allow your life to unfold.
The traditional farewell of a mariner is wishing a friend fair winds and a following sea.
But the truth is we learn more about ourselves and our ship in a storm than in calm waters.
Wayne & Tamara
SeesawI'm a single woman who is intelligent, kindhearted, and attractive.
I recently ended a relationship with a man I'll call Jordan.
Jordan slowly moved from wanting to spend every moment with me to "needing some space."Jordan is bipolar and refuses to seek help, and my attempts to help left him better and me with an hour of sleep.
Recently we enjoyed a great afternoon when he invited me to a party.
Well, the last time we went to a party, I was basically "left by the punchbowl."
When I gently expressed my concern, he screamed, "Get out!"
Which I promptly did.I realize I'm stupid to want anything but to move on, but for curiosity's sake, because it's driving me crazy, what on earth is his problem?
We seem to want the same thing, each other, yet he's going back and forth faster than a swing.DarleneDarlene, you ask what on earth is his problem.
To borrow a phrase from teenagers, "Duh?"
He is an unmedicated, bipolar person.
As long as he won't address the problem of his mood swings, there is no place on the swing for you.Tamara.
Depression Glass Trivia
Depression glass facts make for interesting conversation,especially when you're at a convention or talking amongstother Depression glass aficionados. So here are a few itemsto get you started so you, too, can have some meaningfulknowledge to put on the plate when you and your Depressionglass collector friends gather ?round and chat.English Hobnail leads the pack as the design with around the most available pieces still out there for collectors.Westmoreland Glass Company produced the English Hobnailpattern from the late 1920s to the 1980s, with theDepression-era pieces made in eight different colors. Intotal, 175 pieces of this particular design were created.Rose Cameo, conversely, holds the record for the leastnumber of pieces available in a pattern. The BelmontTumbler Company held the patent for Rose Cameo, and onlysix pieces of this design made it to the marketplace: aplate, a footed sherbet, a footed tumbler, a berry bowl,and a 5-inch and 6-inch bowl. Because Belmont manufacturedonly...
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The Fuel Of Stress, Depression and Anxiety
In the 21st Century, it is predicted that stress and stress related illnesses such as depression and anxiety will become the biggest killers. Despite significant advances in housing, standards of living, quality of food, and medical science, the pressures all of us have to face in today's world are as demanding as any pressures experienced by our predecessors.Why are these illnesses on the rise? And why do some people become so ill through these illnesses, they can find it hard to function?Well they sure don't happen overnight! You don't suddenly wake up one morning and feel stressed or depressed. It's not like flicking on a light switch! And by the same rule, if you're suffering, you can't just wake up one morning, flick off the switch and say "Great, I'm better now."Many people who don't suffer from these illnesses often say to sufferers:"Come on, snap out of it."If only it was so easy! Should anyone say this to you, please forgive them as it's just a lack of understanding. It's very...
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Impotence Help
A lot of good information and help for impotence is available to people who need it.
The popularity of recent treatment has also helped remove some of the stigma associated with discussing impotence as more people realize it is often treatable at all ages.
Keeping in mind that there is usually an underlying physical condition that explains impotence, one's doctor may be the best person to seek advice from.
A doctor can determine whether an underlying physical condition, lifestyle factors, a prescription drug side effect, a psychological factor, or some combination of these is responsible for the impotence.
He or she does this by taking a detailed personal and medical history, performing a physical examination, making a psychological evaluation, and running laboratory tests if necessary.
This information is then used to plan the best treatment.
Urologists, or doctors who specialize in diseases of the urinary tract, are...
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Unusual New Book Just in Time for National Recreation and Parks Month -Soccer-Playing Horse Will Enthrall Young Travelers
(ContentDesk) August 1, 2005 -- Author Dan A. Peterson emphasizes teamwork in his debut novel, "Fergus, The Soccer-Playing Colt" (Raven Publishing Inc., $9, 178 pages, ISBN 0-9714161-7-6). Portraying many points of view including those of the horse and his twelve-year-old master, Dan brings to life a unique colt who finds his talents as a soccer goalkeeper. Fergus's nationwide tour to promote soccer brings instant fame, but not without peril. The greedy designs of a modern western outlaw and his colorful sidekicks lend humor, suspense, and cowboy mystique, as Fergus is "horse-napped." Forlorn, he finds an unlikely friend in a dog, Bouncer, showing that companionship can work wonders.
"Fergus can be an object lesson in maintaining your identity in the most difficult of times," says Mr. Peterson."I think a horse possesses something akin to self-worth. I know a horse can become depressed. My gelding went through a state of depression when orphaned as a foal and later when he lost...
Unusual New Book Just in Time for National Recreation and Parks Month -Soccer-Playing Horse Will Enthrall Young Travelers
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